In general, most people don’t like to cause confrontation because it causes stress and can often result in an argument. And most people really suck at listening to constructive criticism. Most of react in defensive a manner and will often fire back verbally and again the result is often a confrontation.
• Constructive criticism should never result in making someone feel inferior or stupid. This chapter is designed to focus on how well you know your lover and how to learn more about them. My wish is for you to make sure you’re pushing the right buttons each and every time you make love.
If there is one thing life teaches us, it’s that everybody has different likes and dislikes. The question I love to ask people is, “Do you feel that you have a good grasp on what your partner’s likes and dislikes are? Nobody wants to admit they don’t know their partner. So often when the question is posed directly to a man or woman, they’ll always answer “yes, I know what my man/woman likes”.
• Let’s not gamble with such an important topic. I encourage you not to make any assumptions, we all know what happens when we assume.
As any relationship grows and develops ones likes and dislikes may change. So you may want to ask yourself the following
• “Have I kept dialed in to my relationships frequency”. Staying in tune with your other half as the relationship grows is incredibly important and reinforces to both parties the high level of commitment each of you have.
Please understand that talking about what you like and what you want will only add to your love life and make it more enjoyable. One little change here and another little adaptation there can re-establish the electrical connection in your relationship. Energize your love life with some variety. Making love is about passion and emotion and having fun. Dare I ask, “Do you still have fun making love to your partner”?
• So how do you as a couple maintain a heightened state of erotic bliss that most couples only dream about. I know of only way, feedback. That’s right, good old down to earth jump up and slap you in the face verbal and non-verbal feedback.
Have you ever heard the statistic that seventy How to construct great arguments percent of all communication is non verbal? Have you ever sat in an airport and just watched people? Or watched a couple having a discussion and you just knew they were arguing? Paying attention to body language can be HUGE! In knowing if your lover is happy with your performance. Since I already brought it up, don’t be a baby if by some chance you stumble, or your lover let’s you know there a little uncomfortable. I can’t emphasize how important it is to understand how your partner communicates with you none verbally. Their body may tense up; a gentle nudge to move away your hand can be signs of displeasure. Take nothing for granted when it comes to what pleases your partner.